We created this Gay and Lesbian Adoptive Parents resource page because in the adoption world, Gays and Lesbians have their own set of obstacles and challenges to overcome in order to successfully adopt.
Being a gay parent of an adopted child and also being a ex-employee of one of the larger open adoption agencies in the U.S., I have experienced personally and professionally most all of the things that are unique, and not so unique with the experience of open adoption for prospective gay parents.
Listed below are links to websites that are very usefull and informative for Gay and Lesbian families seeking to adopt in the United States.
We hope you find them useful.
If you have the time, you might read about our own journey to Madison. We adopted Maddie a little over five years ago. Of course it is the edited version of our complete adoption journey, and of course it won't be the end. We found that once we put our feet on this incredible path of open adoption, the adventure becomes a ever changeing, forever journey of the heart.
Deb, Monica, Stacey and Madison
List of Gay Friendly Open Adoption Agencies
Independent Adoption Center
THE INDEPENDENT ADOPTION CENTER: With over 20 years of experience in Domestic Adoptions, the Independent Adoption Center is the largests and leading Open Adoption Agency in the United States. The Independent Adoption Center insures the rights of birthparents and adoptive parents to decide on the best future for the child and themselves. This means actively choosing each other and what type of openness they want in their adoption relationship.
Since 1985 Adoption Connection has worked with adoptive parents, birthparents and adoptees to create loving families. As a non-profit, licensed adoption agency, we are proud to have helped place over 1,000 children in adoptive homes.
Adopt Int - Domestic Adoption
Adopt International is an adoption agency providing both international adoption and domestic adoption services. We recognize the rights of children in the United States and throughout the world to find a loving, permanent family who will meet her or his individual needs.
Adoptions From the Heart
We Build Beautiful Families.
Adoptions from the Heart is a private, non-profit, non-sectarian adoption agency, licensed in Pennsylvania, New Jersey, Delaware, West Virginia, New York, and Virginia and approved for placing children with Connecticut families
Friends in Adoption
The Home of Compassionate Adoption
Friends in Adoption is a non-profit, licensed open/compassionate agency whose goal is to help people make informed decisions about adoption. FIA works with both those interested in adopting and with pregnant women/couples considering placing their children with adoptive families.
Open Adoption and Family Services facilitates child-centered open adoptions in which birthparents and adoptive families create healthy long-term relationships addressing the ongoing needs of children.
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Adoption Lawyers that deal solely in Open Adoption
Law Offices of Adams and Romer
We are a small law office located in a friendly neighborhood in San Francisco. We offer personal care and full legal help in the domestic adoption process to expectant parents who are interested in placing their child for adoption and to families looking to adopt a child. We work with adopting parents from all over the state of California and can assist expectant parents throughout the United States. As of January 2003, we can also assist adoptive parents outside of California, if they have an identified birth mother in California. We finalize about fifty adoptions a year, so we can work closely together and pay attention to your needs. As a law office we do our best to ensure a safe, legal, ethical adoption.
Law Offices of Marc Gradstein
Law Offices of Larry Siegel - San Raphel -Northern California
Facilitation and Outreach Professionals
Cooperative Adoption Consulting...
was established by Ellen Roseman over twenty four years ago to assist prospective adoptive parents in the open adoption process. Independent and agency adoptions are facilitated in a supportive nurturing and educational atmosphere. Cooperative Adoption Consultation respects and welcomes working with all family types.
Gay Adoption Online Support and Information
Lesbian and Gay Rights Fact Sheet
About.com support resources
Gay Parents Adopting Rights Petition
The National Adoption Information Clearinghouse is a
comprehensive resource on all aspects of adoption
The resources listed on this page was compiled by the NAIC.
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AASK Adopt A Special Kid
7700 Edgewater Drive, Suite 125
Oakland, CA 94621
(510) 553-1748 ext. 12
Web site: http://www.adoptaspecialkid.org
American Civil Liberties Union - Lesbian and Gay Rights Project
125 Broad Street
New York, NY 10004
Web site: http://www.aclu.org
Child Welfare League of America
440 First Street NW, Third Floor
Washington, DC 20001-2085
Fax: (202) 638-4004
Web site: http://www.cwla.org
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere - COLAGE
3543 18th Street #17
San Francisco, CA 94110
Web site: http://www.colage.org
Custody Action for Lesbian Mothers - CALM, Inc.
PO Box 281
Narbeth, PA 19072
Family Pride Coalition
PO Box 34337
San Diego, CA 92163
Fax: (619) 296-0699
Web site: http://www.familypride.org
Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation - GLAAD
1825 Connecticut Ave NW, 5th Floor
Washington, DC 20009
Web site: http://www.glaad.org
Gay Fathers Coalition
PO Box 19891
Washington, DC 20036
Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network - GLSEN
121 West 27th Street, Suite 804
New York, NY 10001
Fax: (212) 727-0254
Web site: http://www.glsen.org/cgi-bin/iowa/all/home/index.html
The International Lesbian and Gay Association
ILGA Administrative Office
B 1000, Brussels, Belgium
Web site: http://www.ilga.org
Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund
120 Wall Street, Suite 1500
New York, NY 10005-3904
Fax: (212) 809-0055
Web site: http://www.lambdalegal.org
Lavender Families Resource Network
PO Box 21567
Seattle, WA 98111
Lesbian Mothers Support Society
PO Box 61
National Center for Lesbian Rights
870 Market Street, Suite 570
San Francisco, CA 94102
Fax: (415) 392-8442
Web site: http://www.nclrights.org
!OutProud! The National Coalition for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Youth
369 Third Street, Suite B-362
San Rafael, CA 94901-3581
Web site: http://www.outproud.org
Parents, Families, Friends of Lesbians and Gays - PFLAG
1101 14th Street NW, Suite 1030
Washington, DC 20005
Fax: (202) 638-0243
Web site: http://www.pflag.org/
Partners Task Force for Gay and Lesbian Couples
Seattle, WA 98109-0685
Web site: http://www.buddybuddy.com
Sexual Minority Youth Assistance League (SMYAL)
410 Seventh Street SE
Washington, DC 20003-2707
Fax: (202) 544-1306
Web site: http://www.smyal.org
Gay Parent Magazine Online
PO Box 750852
Forest Hills, NY 11375-0852
Web site: http://www.gayparentmag.com
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* Children's Books for Gay and Lesbian Parented Families
Bosche, S. (1981). Jenny Lives with Eric and Martin. London, England: Gay Men's Press.
Dahl, J. (1989). River of Promise. San Diego, CA: Luramedia.
Elwin, R., Paulse, M. (1990). Asha's Mums. Toronto, Canada: Women's Press.
Heron, A., Meredith, M. (1991). How Would You Feel If Your Dad Was Gay? Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.
Newman, L. (1989). Heather Has Two Mommies. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.
Newman, L. (1991). Gloria Goes to Gay Pride. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.
Newman, L. (1993). Saturday Is Pattyday. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.
Schaffer, P. (1988). How Babies and Families Are Made: There Is More Than One Way. Berkeley, CA: Tabor Sarah Books.
Willhoite, M. (1990). Daddy's Roommate Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.
Willhoite, M. (1991). Families: A Coloring Book. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.
Willhoite, M. (1993). Uncle What-Is-It Is Coming To Visit. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.
* Bibliography of Books for Gay and Lesbian Parents
Barrett, R. L., Robinson, B. E. (1990). Gay Fathers. Lexington, MA: Lexington Books.
Benkov, L. (1994). Reinventing the Family: Lesbian and Gay Parents. New York, NY: Crown Publishing.
Berzon, B. (1988). Permanent Partners: Building Gay and Lesbian Relationships. New York, NY: Penguin Books.
Bozett, F. (1987). Gay and Lesbian Parents. New York, NY: Praeger.
Burke, P. (1993). Family Values: Two Moms and their Son. New York, NY: Random House.
Corley, R. (1990). The Final Closet: The Gay Parents' Guide for Coming Out to Their Children. Miami, FL: Editech.
Curry, H., Clifford, D. (1991). A Legal Guide for Lesbian and Gay Couples. Berkeley, CA: Nolo Press.
Gantz, J. (1983). Whose Child Cries. Rollings Hills Estates, CA: JALMAR.
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READING LISTS Continued
Gil De Lamadrid, M. (1991). Lesbians Choosing Motherhood: Legal Implications of Donor Insemination and Co-parenting. San Francisco, CA: National Center for Lesbian Rights.
Hanscombe, G. E., Forster, J. (1987). Rocking the Cradle. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.
Hidalgo, H., Peterson, T.L., Woodman, N.J. (1985). Lesbian and Gay Issues: A Resource Manual for Social Workers. Silver Spring, MD: NASW.
Johnson, S. (1990). Staying Power: Longterm Lesbian Couples. Tallahassee, FL: NAIAD.
Lewin, E. (1993). Lesbian Mothers. Ithaca, NY: Cornell University Press.
Macpike, L. (1989). There's Something I've Been Meaning to Tell You. Tallahassee, FL: NAIAD.
Martin, April. (1993). The Lesbian and Gay Parenting Handbook. New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers.
Morgen, K. B. (1995). Getting Simon: Two Gay Doctors' Journey to Fatherhood. New York, NY: Bramble Books.
Pies, C. (1985). Considering Parenthood: A Workbook for Lesbians. San Francisco, CA: Spinsters/Aunt Lute.
Pollack, S., Vaughn, J. (1987). Politics of the Heart: A Lesbian Parenting Anthology. Ithaca, NY: Firebrand Books.
Rafkin, L. (1987). Different Daughters: A Book by Mothers of Lesbians. San Francisco, CA: Cleis Press.
Rafkin, L. (1990). Different Mothers: Sons and daughters of lesbians talk about their lives. Pittsburgh, PA: Cleis Press.
Rothblum, E., Cole, E. (1989). Loving Boldly: Issues Facing Lesbians. New York, NY: Harrington Park Press.
Schulenberg, J. (1985). Gay Parenting: A Complete Guide for Gay Men and Lesbians with Children. New York, NY: Doubleday.
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Gay and Lesbian Adoptive Parents: Resources for Professionals and Parents Bibliography
Adamec, C. A., Pierce, W. L. (1991). The Encyclopedia of Adoption. New York, NY: Facts on File, Inc.
Adams, W. E. Whose Family Is It Anyway? The Continuing Struggle for Lesbians and Gay Men Seeking to Adopt Children. (1996). New England Law Review, 30 (3): 579-621.
Arendell, T. (1997). Contemporary Parenting: Challenges and Issues. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications, Inc.
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Benkov, L. (1994). Reinventing the Family: Lesbian and Gay Parents. New York, NY: Crown Publishing.
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Siegel, S. E. (1997). Parenting Your Adopted Child: A Complete and Loving Guide. Encino, CA: SES Publishing.
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Triseliotis, J. P., Shireman, J., Hundleby, M. (1997). Adoption: Theory, Policy and Practice. London, England: Cassell.
Open Adoption Gay and Lesbian Adoptive Parents Resources and support information. National Adoption Information Clearinghouse, NAIC resources listed.