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Gay Adoption Articles, Professionals and Support Resources

Dear Reader,

We created this Gay and Lesbian Adoptive Parents resource page because in the adoption world, Gays and Lesbians have their own set of obstacles and challenges to overcome in order to successfully adopt.

Being a gay parent of an adopted child and also being a ex-employee of one of the larger open adoption agencies in the U.S., I have experienced personally and professionally most all of the things that are unique, and not so unique with the experience of open adoption for prospective gay parents.

Listed below are links to websites that are very usefull and informative for Gay and Lesbian families seeking to adopt in the United States.
We hope you find them useful.

If you have the time, you might read about our own journey to Madison. We adopted Maddie a little over five years ago. Of course it is the edited version of our complete adoption journey, and of course it won't be the end. We found that once we put our feet on this incredible path of open adoption, the adventure becomes a ever changeing, forever journey of the heart.

Thank You,
Deb, Monica, Stacey and Madison

List of Gay Friendly Open Adoption Agencies

Independent Adoption Center
THE INDEPENDENT ADOPTION CENTER: With over 20 years of experience in Domestic Adoptions, the Independent Adoption Center is the largests and leading Open Adoption Agency in the United States. The Independent Adoption Center insures the rights of birthparents and adoptive parents to decide on the best future for the child and themselves. This means actively choosing each other and what type of openness they want in their adoption relationship.

Adoption Connection
Since 1985 Adoption Connection has worked with adoptive parents, birthparents and adoptees to create loving families. As a non-profit, licensed adoption agency, we are proud to have helped place over 1,000 children in adoptive homes.

Adopt Int - Domestic Adoption
Adopt International is an adoption agency providing both international adoption and domestic adoption services. We recognize the rights of children in the United States and throughout the world to find a loving, permanent family who will meet her or his individual needs.

Adoptions From the Heart
We Build Beautiful Families.
Adoptions from the Heart is a private, non-profit, non-sectarian adoption agency, licensed in Pennsylvania, New Jersey, Delaware, West Virginia, New York, and Virginia and approved for placing children with Connecticut families

Friends in Adoption
The Home of Compassionate Adoption
Friends in Adoption is a non-profit, licensed open/compassionate agency whose goal is to help people make informed decisions about adoption. FIA works with both those interested in adopting and with pregnant women/couples considering placing their children with adoptive families.

Open Adopt
Open Adoption and Family Services facilitates child-centered open adoptions in which birthparents and adoptive families create healthy long-term relationships addressing the ongoing needs of children.

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Adoption Lawyers that deal solely in Open Adoption

Law Offices of Adams and Romer
We are a small law office located in a friendly neighborhood in San Francisco. We offer personal care and full legal help in the domestic adoption process to expectant parents who are interested in placing their child for adoption and to families looking to adopt a child.  We work with adopting parents from all over the state of California and can assist expectant parents throughout the United States. As of January 2003, we can also assist adoptive parents outside of California, if they have an identified birth mother in California. We finalize about fifty adoptions a year, so we can work closely together and pay attention to your needs.  As a law office we do our best to ensure a safe, legal, ethical adoption.

Law Offices of Marc Gradstein
Law Offices of Larry Siegel - San Raphel -Northern California

Facilitation and Outreach Professionals

Cooperative Adoption Consulting...
was established by Ellen Roseman over twenty four years ago to assist prospective adoptive parents in the open adoption process. Independent and agency adoptions are facilitated in a supportive nurturing and educational atmosphere. Cooperative Adoption Consultation respects and welcomes working with all family types.

Gay Adoption Online Support and Information

Lesbian and Gay Rights Fact Sheet support resources
Gay Parents Adopting Rights Petition

The National Adoption Information Clearinghouse is a
comprehensive resource on all aspects of adoption
The resources listed on this page was compiled by the NAIC.

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AASK Adopt A Special Kid
7700 Edgewater Drive, Suite 125
Oakland, CA 94621
(510) 553-1748 ext. 12
Web site:

American Civil Liberties Union - Lesbian and Gay Rights Project
125 Broad Street
New York, NY 10004
(212) 549-2627
Web site:

Child Welfare League of America
440 First Street NW, Third Floor
Washington, DC 20001-2085
(202) 638-2952
Fax: (202) 638-4004
Web site:

Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere - COLAGE
3543 18th Street #17
San Francisco, CA 94110
(415) 861-5437
Web site:

Custody Action for Lesbian Mothers - CALM, Inc.
PO Box 281
Narbeth, PA 19072
(215) 667-7508

Family Pride Coalition
PO Box 34337
San Diego, CA 92163
(619) 296-0199
Fax: (619) 296-0699
Web site:

Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation - GLAAD
1825 Connecticut Ave NW, 5th Floor
Washington, DC 20009
Web site:

Gay Fathers Coalition
PO Box 19891
Washington, DC 20036
(202) 583-8029

Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network - GLSEN
121 West 27th Street, Suite 804
New York, NY 10001
(212) 727-0135
Fax: (212) 727-0254
Web site:

The International Lesbian and Gay Association
ILGA Administrative Office
81 Kolenmarkt
B 1000, Brussels, Belgium
Web site:

Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund
120 Wall Street, Suite 1500
New York, NY 10005-3904
(212) 809-8585
Fax: (212) 809-0055
Web site:

Lavender Families Resource Network
PO Box 21567
Seattle, WA 98111
(206) 325-2643

Lesbian Mothers Support Society
PO Box 61
Station M
Calgary, Alberta
Canada T2P2G9
(403) 265-6433

National Center for Lesbian Rights
870 Market Street, Suite 570
San Francisco, CA 94102
(415) 392-6257
Fax: (415) 392-8442
Web site:

!OutProud! The National Coalition for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender Youth
369 Third Street, Suite B-362
San Rafael, CA 94901-3581
Web site:

Parents, Families, Friends of Lesbians and Gays - PFLAG
1101 14th Street NW, Suite 1030
Washington, DC 20005
(202) 638-4200
Fax: (202) 638-0243
Web site:

Partners Task Force for Gay and Lesbian Couples
Box 9685
Seattle, WA 98109-0685
(206) 935-1206
Web site:

Sexual Minority Youth Assistance League (SMYAL)
410 Seventh Street SE
Washington, DC 20003-2707
(202) 546-5940
Fax: (202) 544-1306
Web site:


Gay Parent Magazine Online
PO Box 750852
Forest Hills, NY 11375-0852
(718) 793-6641
Web site:

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* Children's Books for Gay and Lesbian Parented Families

Bosche, S. (1981). Jenny Lives with Eric and Martin. London, England: Gay Men's Press.

Dahl, J. (1989). River of Promise. San Diego, CA: Luramedia.

Elwin, R., Paulse, M. (1990). Asha's Mums. Toronto, Canada: Women's Press.

Heron, A., Meredith, M. (1991). How Would You Feel If Your Dad Was Gay? Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.

Newman, L. (1989). Heather Has Two Mommies. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.

Newman, L. (1991). Gloria Goes to Gay Pride. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.

Newman, L. (1993). Saturday Is Pattyday. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.

Schaffer, P. (1988). How Babies and Families Are Made: There Is More Than One Way. Berkeley, CA: Tabor Sarah Books.

Willhoite, M. (1990). Daddy's Roommate Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.

Willhoite, M. (1991). Families: A Coloring Book. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.

Willhoite, M. (1993). Uncle What-Is-It Is Coming To Visit. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.

* Bibliography of Books for Gay and Lesbian Parents

Barrett, R. L., Robinson, B. E. (1990). Gay Fathers. Lexington, MA: Lexington Books.

Benkov, L. (1994). Reinventing the Family: Lesbian and Gay Parents. New York, NY: Crown Publishing.

Berzon, B. (1988). Permanent Partners: Building Gay and Lesbian Relationships. New York, NY: Penguin Books.

Bozett, F. (1987). Gay and Lesbian Parents. New York, NY: Praeger.

Burke, P. (1993). Family Values: Two Moms and their Son. New York, NY: Random House.

Corley, R. (1990). The Final Closet: The Gay Parents' Guide for Coming Out to Their Children. Miami, FL: Editech.

Curry, H., Clifford, D. (1991). A Legal Guide for Lesbian and Gay Couples. Berkeley, CA: Nolo Press.

Gantz, J. (1983). Whose Child Cries. Rollings Hills Estates, CA: JALMAR.

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Gil De Lamadrid, M. (1991). Lesbians Choosing Motherhood: Legal Implications of Donor Insemination and Co-parenting. San Francisco, CA: National Center for Lesbian Rights.

Hanscombe, G. E., Forster, J. (1987). Rocking the Cradle. Boston, MA: Alyson Publications.

Hidalgo, H., Peterson, T.L., Woodman, N.J. (1985). Lesbian and Gay Issues: A Resource Manual for Social Workers. Silver Spring, MD: NASW.

Johnson, S. (1990). Staying Power: Longterm Lesbian Couples. Tallahassee, FL: NAIAD.

Lewin, E. (1993). Lesbian Mothers. Ithaca, NY: Cornell University Press.

Macpike, L. (1989). There's Something I've Been Meaning to Tell You. Tallahassee, FL: NAIAD.

Martin, April. (1993). The Lesbian and Gay Parenting Handbook. New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers.

Morgen, K. B. (1995). Getting Simon: Two Gay Doctors' Journey to Fatherhood. New York, NY: Bramble Books.

Pies, C. (1985). Considering Parenthood: A Workbook for Lesbians. San Francisco, CA: Spinsters/Aunt Lute.

Pollack, S., Vaughn, J. (1987). Politics of the Heart: A Lesbian Parenting Anthology. Ithaca, NY: Firebrand Books.

Rafkin, L. (1987). Different Daughters: A Book by Mothers of Lesbians. San Francisco, CA: Cleis Press.

Rafkin, L. (1990). Different Mothers: Sons and daughters of lesbians talk about their lives. Pittsburgh, PA: Cleis Press.

Rothblum, E., Cole, E. (1989). Loving Boldly: Issues Facing Lesbians. New York, NY: Harrington Park Press.

Schulenberg, J. (1985). Gay Parenting: A Complete Guide for Gay Men and Lesbians with Children. New York, NY: Doubleday.

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Gay and Lesbian Adoptive Parents: Resources for Professionals and Parents Bibliography

Adamec, C. A., Pierce, W. L. (1991). The Encyclopedia of Adoption. New York, NY: Facts on File, Inc.

Adams, W. E. Whose Family Is It Anyway? The Continuing Struggle for Lesbians and Gay Men Seeking to Adopt Children. (1996). New England Law Review, 30 (3): 579-621.

Arendell, T. (1997). Contemporary Parenting: Challenges and Issues. Thousand Oaks, CA: Sage Publications, Inc.

Bartholet, E. Beyond Biology: The Politics of Adoption and Reproduction. (1995). Duke Journal of Gender Law and Policy, 2 (1): 5-14.

Benkov, L. (1994). Reinventing the Family: Lesbian and Gay Parents. New York, NY: Crown Publishing.

Bigner, J. J., Bozett, F. W. 1990. Parenting by Gay Fathers. In: Homosexuality and Family Relations. Bozett, F. W., Sussman, M. B. New York, NY: Haworth Press, Inc.

Blommer, S.J. (undated). Answers to Your Questions About Sexual Orientation and Homosexuality: A Fact Sheet. Washington, DC. American Psychological Association.

Bozett, F. W. (1987). Gay and Lesbian Parents. New York, NY: Praeger Publishers.

Bozett, F. W., Sussman, M. B. (1990). Homosexuality and Family Relations. Binghamton, NY: Haworth Press, Inc.

Brooks, D., Goldberg, S., Berrick, J. D., Austin, M. J. (1996). Considerations Relating to the Placement of Children in Gay-Lesbian Foster and Adoptive Homes. Berkeley, CA: University California - Berkeley, Center for Social Sciences Research.

Brown, H. C. Competent Child-Focused Practice: Working with Lesbian and Gay Carers. (1991). Adoption and Fostering, 15 (2): 11-17.

Carole, J. Are Children at Risk for Sexual Abuse by Homosexuals? (1994). Pediatrics, 94 (1):

Colberg, M. 1997. Clinical Issues with Gay and Lesbian Adoptive Parenting. In: Creating Kinship. Roszia, S. K., Baran, A., Coleman, L. Portland, ME: National Child Welfare Resource Center for Organizational Improvement.

Cronin, M. E. (1999). Guide to Talking with Your Child About California's Knight Initiative. San Diego, CA: Family Pride Coalition.

Editors of the Harvard Law Review. (1990). Sexual Orientation and the Law. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press.

Elovitz, M. E. Adoption by Lesbian and Gay People: The Use and Mis-Use of Social Science Research. (1995). Duke Journal of Gender Law and Policy, 2 (1): 207-225.

Guggenheim, M., Lowe, A. D., Curtis, D. (1996). Gay and Lesbian Families. In: The Rights of Families: The Authoritative ACLU Guide to the Rights of Family Members Today. Guggenheim, M., Lowe, A. D., Curtis, D. Carbondale, IL: Southern Illinois University Press.

Haugaard, J. J., Dorman, K., Schustack, A. Lesbian-Headed Households. (1998). Adoption Quarterly, 1 (4): 93-101.

Huggins, S.L. A Comparative Study of Self-Esteem of Adolescent Children of Divorced Lesbian Mothers and Divorced Heterosexual Mothers. (1989). Journal of Homosexuality, 18 (1/2): 123-135.

Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund. (1997). Lesbian and Gay Parenting: A Fact Sheet. New York, NY: Lambda Legal Defense and Education Fund.

Lesbian and Gay Rights Project - ACLU. (1998). In the Child's Best Interests: Defending Fair and Sensible Adoption Policies. New York, NY: American Civil Liberties Union.

Lesbian and Gay Rights Project - ACLU. (1999). ACLU Fact Sheet - Overview of Lesbian and Gay Parenting, Adoption and Foster Care. New York, NY: American Civil Liberties Union.

Markey, K. An Overview of the Legal Challenges Faced by Gay and Lesbian Parents: How Courts Treat the Growing Number of Gay Families. (1998). New York Law School Journal of Human Rights, 14 (3): 721-755.

Martin, A. (1993). The Lesbian and Gay Parenting Handbook. New York, NY: HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.

Mishra, D. The Road to Concord: Resolving the Conflict of Law Over Adoption by Gays and Lesbians. (1996). Columbia Journal of Law and Social Problems, 30 (1): 91-136.

Morgen, K. B. (1995). Getting Simon, Two Gay Doctors' Journey to Fatherhood. Bearsville, NY: Bramble Books.

Okun, B. (1996). Understanding Diverse Families: What Practitioners Need to Know. New York, NY: Guilford Publications, Inc.

Patterson, C. J. Adoption of Minor Children by Lesbian and Gay Adults: A Social Science Perspective. (1995). Duke Journal of Gender Law and Policy, 2 (1): 191-205.

Patterson, C. J. Children of Lesbian and Gay Parents. (1992). Child Development: 1025-1039.

Perry, D. Homes of Last Resort. (1993). The Advocate: 46.

Poverny, L. M., Finch, W. A. Gay and Lesbian Domestic Partnerships: Expanding the Definition of Family. (1988). Social Casework, 69 (2): 116-121.

Ricketts, W. (1991). Lesbians and Gay Men as Foster Parents. Portland, ME: National Child Welfare Resource Center for Management and Administration.

Ricketts, W., Achtenberg, R. 1990. Adoption and Foster Parenting for Lesbians and Gay Men: Creating New Traditions in Family. In: Homosexuality and Family Relations. Bozett, F.W., Sussman, M.B. New York, NY: Haworth Press, Inc.

Reilly, T. Gay and Lesbian Adoptions: A Theoretical Examination of Policy-Making and Organizational Decision Making. (1996). Journal of Sociology and Social Welfare, 23 (4): 99-115.

Rohrbaugh, J.B. Lesbian Families: Clinical Issues and Theoretical Implications. (1992). Professional Psychology: Research and Practice, 23: 467-473.

Siegel, S. E. (1997). Parenting Your Adopted Child: A Complete and Loving Guide. Encino, CA: SES Publishing.

Sullivan, A., (1995). Issues In Gay and Lesbian Adoption: Proceedings of the Fourth Annual Peirce-Warwick Adoption Symposium, Washington, DC: Child Welfare League of America.

Sullivan, A. Policy Issues in Gay and Lesbian Adoption. (1995). Adoption and Fostering, 19 (4): 21-25.

Sultan, S. L. The Right of Homosexuals to Adopt: Changing Legal Interpretations of "Parent" and "Family". (1995). Journal of the Suffolk Academy of Law, 10 (3): 1-58.

Triseliotis, J. P., Shireman, J., Hundleby, M. (1997). Adoption: Theory, Policy and Practice. London, England: Cassell.

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